It's just a few days until we ring in the New Year and start fresh with 2017. I know I'm not the only one with New Years resolutions on the mind...and this year, I want to approach it a little differently.
I am all about embracing new beginnings and setting goals, but it seems to me that these resolutions are oftentimes arbitrary and unrealistic (I speak for my own experiences here too).
Every time I see a list of resolutions or hear people talking about it, they seem to be focusing on things like saving x amount of money, losing weight, or cutting some random food group out of their diet. And hey, if these are healthy resolutions that are realistic, purposeful, and important to your personal life context, who am I to discount that?
Whatever your resolutions are, the key is to set yourself up for success, perhaps with baby steps by making your resolutions small and manageable, but still meaningful to you. Don't make unrealistic expectations of yourself that will either discourage you from trying at all, or will cause shame or guilt if you don't reach them.
Remember that sometimes the smallest steps forward are the biggest victories.
Try to think big picture, rather than a "quick fix" to a problem you're having or something you are dissatisfied with in your life. Most importantly, make sure your resolutions align with your values, your overall wellness, and your long-term goals in life.
What we hope to accomplish and change in the future is relative person to person, but one thing that I believe is very important across the board is not to forget about the year(s) past...
If you are going to take the time and thought to make a new years resolution (or a few), be mindful about it. In the process of making goals and promises to yourself for the year to come, think about the past 12 months and what you have accomplished, learned, and experienced that has molded you to the place you are sitting right now.
The past, present, and future are all intricately connected - so whatever your resolutions may be for 2017 - be sure that they honor you, those you love, and the big picture of what is most important to you.
© 2016 Rachel Cord, Pacific MFT Network
Happy New Year!!
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